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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everybody here seems to be so competitive. Everyone went to HYP, were D1 athletes and make a zillion dollars. Larlo and Larla their darling children are already being recruited by pre-MLS soccer teams at the tender age of 8 and are well on their way to being top notch athletes and top of their class.

How do you parent in this environment? I have 3 elementary aged kids and they are all doing great. They have friends, do pretty well at school, play sports and are fun to be around.

But sometimes being around these hyper competitive parents makes me take a closer look at my kids and wonder if I should push them more.

Should I push DD7 to make the premier team in travel soccer instead of the 2nd tier team? Do I even tell her she didn’t make the premier team and should practice more?

Should I be disappointed that DD9 didn’t get into AAP and will be in gen education?

DH and I both come from smaller more rural areas where we were top of our classes, played all the sports, went to well regarded SLAC colleges and are now making a pretty high salary (HHI $600-700k a year). These all seemed attainable where we lived with less competition. Here in the DMV it seems impossible for our kids to stand out. How do you parent in this sort of environment? [/quote]

Are you genuinely this clueless?  Have you examined your own thinking and wondered why your kids need to "stand out," period? That's a testament to how much you already bought into the competition culture here, you just ... lack the will and guts to execute on it. It's not rocket science how to make your children "stand out" if that's what you want: you throw money and resources at it. Private school, tutoring, fancy extracurriculars, and some helicopter parenting. Unless you truly have kids who are genetically gifted with 1% smarts, and doesn't sound like this is the case here.

Or perhaps you can, you know, use your wealth to ensure your kids dont have to compete. You have more than enough to free your kids from the rat race. If you don't, it's because of your ego. [/quote]

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