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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel you OP. I have always craved a mother figure who can love me unconditionally and offer guidance on life (my mother was very neglectful and emotionally stunted). I now bring comfort to myself, I realized I don't need a loving mother to turn to, I turn to myself. And to nature. I take such glory in a nice breezy day. [/quote]

Same, but there are times when I wish I had an emotional connection with a wise, loving mother or father.  I've done fine turning to myself, but I've been challenged attaching to others. DH is the only person in my life who has shown up as this person and I’ve often failed to acknowledge or appreciate it.  [/quote]

no one wants to act like your mom or dad, and is is evident when you expect that from them, impossible to hide. It comes across as neediness and wanting to be babied. no one is going to want to do this for another adult, especially one who has done grown woman things like get married and have kids. [/quote]

The type of person you are thinking of (who demands to be babied and tries to turn people into their mother/father figure), are not self aware though. OP is self aware about her needs, what happened in her childhood, and also respectful of boundaries (understanding she cannot expect her children to fill this need). She is wounded though, as someone who was abused/neglected as a child. You might consider having some empathy for that.[/quote]

The people who are self aware are always looking for that care from their friends and family, they cannot help it. The constantly strategize to be "cared for", that is all they do. Being non self aware about this means this need never is one you would conceive of having. [/quote]

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