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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this was a man writing about his wife micromanaging him, she would be seen as a wonderful woman trying to maintain a sense of order and to keep junk out of the house and to do what she has to do to keep the house running. She would be lauded as a hero who has to put up with this husband who can't even manage simple house rules that serve to keep the house and family clean and organized and he would be degraded, called names and laughed at for being such a bad husband. [/quote]

I am a woman and I agree with you. OP is only giving her version--I agree that DH is being heavy handed. Those counseling her to leave are one dimensional and simplistic. Marriage is a little more complicated than "just leave". What we may not be getting an accurate picture of is how much of a train wreck OP is. DH is definitely over-controlling--but he may be over reacting to OP's slovenly ways--and now this has just become their"dynamic". It can be very difficult to break out of this dynamic--but presumably you married DH because you love some aspect of this about him...he takes care of things, right? But in response you may have become more child-like. And so it goes. This can be fixed, with or without meds, but you'll need to motivate your spouse by doing something dramatic and then really demanding that he go with you to about 6 therapy sessions. [b]Can you afford to take your baby and leave for a hotel for 1-2 nights? [/b]Ask him firmly to go to therapy and set up the appointment if he agrees. If he doesn't agree, [b]at a time when he is not in the home to confront you, leave without a word for a couple of days. [/b] Police may be called to come to the house when you disappear. Do not panic. It is NOT illegal for you to leave your spouse and take the kid for a few days to cool your jets. But in HIS panic to call the police he may realize just how close he has come to losing you. [b]Having a 6 foot + tall homicide detective in his living room will fix his wagon, for sure.[/b][/quote]

Read her follow up post. Nothing in there has anything to do with the house or her slovenly ways. And seriously, suggesting that she scare the crap out of him to the point where he feels the need to call the police because, gee, having a homicide detective in the house will turn him around??? You're crazy.[/quote]

I'm not crazy. But you are if that is all you got out of my post. [/quote]

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