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[quote=Anonymous]OP, your last post scared me. No therapy because your DH hates doctors and you are home with a baby? Huh?

You sound like you have become co-dependent. Look it up. You are used to his ways, but are not interested in making the changes in your own behavior that will necessitate him changing his behavior.

You may have to leave for a few days. I don't think that's a crazy idea. Your DH is crazy. He is controlled enough not to show it to his friends or in public, but the way he treats you is truly crazy. Not able to leave the toaster on the counter? Checking out the sink to see that it's clean? Making you send Christmas gifts back to your mom because HE doesn't like them? This is crazy, mentally-ill, dysfunctional behavior. At some level, he knows he's ill because he hides it when he's outside your home.

Do you really think it's healthy for you to raise a child in this environment?

If he won't get help, then you need to find a sitter and get yourself to a therapist. You need to learn how to change your own behavior FIRST. If you change your pattern of behavior, he will have no choice, but to change his behavior.

If he cannot see the harm he is doing you (and soon, your child), he is in need of therapy and possibly medication. You may have to take dramatic action (threaten divorce, go to your mom's for a few days) in order to show him that you mean business. Perhaps then he will agree to see a therapist at least on a trial basis.

Good luck, OP. Take charge of this situation for your child's sake at least. [/quote]

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