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[quote=Anonymous]My husband used to be a little like this. He had some definite control freak characteristics, lack of empathy, could not read non-verbal cues, and yet always remained calm while pushing me over the edge. 
I came to the brink of divorce. I threatened to leave, told everybody, contacted a lawyer, worried about child visitation.

And when he understood I meant business he made an effort to change. In 9 years he has improved and I would say that 80% of the time we are good, 19% of the time we bicker but keep things decent, and 1% of the time... all hell breaks loose and he makes really crazy decisions.

Lessons learnt:

1. Model good behavior, stay cool and superior and logical. Beat him at his own game by outreasoning him instead of falling back on emotion. Stand your ground. Present your arguments in a firm and organized way.

2. Call him out IMMEDIATELY each and every time he exhibits his abusive control. Consistency is key. This will trigger a lot of fights at first, because he's not used to you not being a doormat, but it will get easier.

3. Of course, prepare him for all this by announcing the new rules to him during a time when he's relaxed.

4. Your husband is so far gone, try this for a year. Counseling and medication might help (mine refused to do either). If he does not improve, divorce is the best solution for you and your child!

Good luck.[/quote]

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