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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised at all of the responses here that are admonishing OP for wanting to intervene. The belief that adulthood begins at 18 and that parents should  "drop the rope" ignores the large body of research showing that adolescent brain development continues into emerging adulthood. A 19 year old may be a legal adult, but their prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain that performs reasoning, planning, judgment, and impulse control) is not yet fully developed. This means that they are much more likely than an adult to make poor decisions and lack the inability to discern whether a situation is safe. So no, parents should not "drop the rope" simply because a child reaches a magic number of 18. Emerging adults still benefit from parental support to help them make good decisions and assess risks. The fact that OP is looking for a way to intervene with a planned trip that will likely involve navigating lots of risky situations tells me that they he/she is a responsible parent who understands that at 19, her son is still likely to benefit from parental involvement.[/quote]
It's a vacation. Chill out.

The fact that OP is looking for a way to intervene with a planned trip her adult son is taking tells me that they he/she is a control freak who needs to loosen the reigns and let her child live his life. [/quote]

Exactly.  And the best way for these young adults to develop their brains is to be in situations where they get to independently exercise their reason, judgment and planning. Yes, they will make mistakes but it's part of living.

And by the way, "...no, parents should not "drop the rope" simply because a child reaches a magic number of 18." is somewhat laughable. There is nothing legally you can do!  Plus, are PP and OP not aware that males 18+ MUST register for selective service?

Mommy may not want Little Billy to go on vacay because she's worried about him but Uncle Sam sure doesn't have that problem. [/quote]

[b]BS, As long as I'm paying for the darn college, their credit card, their food, their phone, their car, their shelter, their insurance, their car insurance, their clothes, their gym membership... I am Uncle Sam!

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Wiill you be my parent?  That kind of of indulgence was never  a part of my universe. [/quote]

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