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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh Catholic wedding ceremonies are soooo long and boring. And almost always only offered at some weird time so that you have to have a gap between the ceremony and reception. My DH was raised catholic and isn’t religious, and I’m so glad he didn’t give into pressure to make that happen. We had our ceremony and reception at the same venue in an easy to get to location (metro/uber/parking) near DC with access to DCA. Guests told us how great our wedding was because once they arrived at the hotel they didn’t need a car. Even our rehearsal dinner and after party stuff was walkable.

If Catholicism were a big part of your lives then I get prioritizing that. But I can’t imagine giving up on the vibe of the wedding I wanted and inconveniencing all my guests just because my DH wanted to please mommy and daddy (are they paying for it or something)?

Your DH should be planning a wedding around your (as in you 2) preferences. In laws can come and put on a happy face or not.[/quote]

They are only "long and boring" if they have a full mass, you don't have to have the mass. Obviously it was important to the couple who invited you to their ceremony to have a mass. So much disinformation on this thread.  Do you also say that all the Bar Mitzvahs you've attended are "long and boring" or any other religious ceremony?[/quote]

I’m not religious so I don’t really attend religious ceremonies including Bar Mitzvahs. I have Jewish friends but didn’t know them before age 13.

Obviously if a mass is important to my friends I sit through it and smile, and am happy to celebrate them. But it’s much longer than a normal ceremony and from talking to them I know that the hours offered are limited so the scheduling generally ends up less convenient than a wedding all at one venue.

If OP said that a Catholic wedding was important to her because her or her husband’s faith then that would 100% be reason to get married in a Catholic Church. But she is expressing disappointment at not having the all-in-1 venue experience and I’m agreeing with her that from a non-religious perspective that type of wedding is more fun. I wouldn’t give up on what I wanted and create a huge headache to for everyone in attendance for something I don’t even believe in or care about.

OP’s in laws are making a huge ask in dictating where and how this wedding takes place. It doesn’t bode well if her DH is already picking their side before the vows are said.[/quote]

Why are you blaming it all on the in-laws? Sounds like OPs fiancé has an opinion too. They are getting off on the wrong foot here.[/quote]

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