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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here: I’m a woman, and my husband is the one whose personality has dramatically changed.

When I said earlier that I haven’t changed, I meant my personality hasn’t changed. His personality has changed; he went from easygoing and extroverted to really, really negative and angry. It’s noticeable to our kids and close family (mostly his family has noticed).

[b]We are under a lot of stress at the moment, but he’s handling it very poorly. [/b]

If he’s cheating, I’m done. I really don’t think he is.

If it’s low T or a midlife crisis, then that’s workable. Hopefully.

To the posters saying 6 months is too soon to think about divorce, let me clarify: I’m not contemplating divorce right now (I’d never leave my kids) and I’d prefer to not divorce when the last one launches. While it’s been 6+ months of no physical contact at all, it was a year+ of minimal contact. None of this happened overnight. If I’m being honest, his personality changed a few years ago: developed a short fuse and basically wasn’t the fun guy I married a million years ago.

I never thought this would happen to us. We seemed solid and happy. Hindsight being 20/20, we invested too much in our kids and careers instead of our marriage. While we were always doing kid stuff/family stuff, we stopped doing anything as just a couple…aside from sex. That’s why losing the intimacy hurts so much. [/quote]

I mean if you are under a lot of stress give him some grace. He may learn to deal better. Congrats to you on being Pollyanna? If this is markedly different than other times you have gone through stressful periods, maybe have a chat with him about that in a calm moment. Have there been other times where your life was more stressful, or is this markedly more?[/quote]

We aren’t newbies and we’ve been together forever, so we’ve navigated very stressful periods in the past…and he handled those situations better.

It’s normal life stuff, not anything truly awful like cancer or criminal behavior. Just adulting.

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