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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]6 months is not that long. It was 7 years without—in my 30s—before I divorced. No way my marriage worked from the beginning and no chance.

Yes, yours seems not bad enough for divorce. Yes, it can be saved. [/quote]

Only if it is a goal shared by OP's spouse.

And if OP's spouse chooses to exit, delusions about "I won't give up time with my kids" is moot, court will order 5050 even if spouse is having an affair. OP has VERY little control re: life and family life moving forward is the reality.

OP, get your ducks in order financially and consult with a lawyer. In case your spouse files first you don't want to be blindsided. [/quote]

I just find it shocking that people are jumping to “can this marriage be saved” when they’re only has been a lack of intimacy for six months only out of all these years; it’s kind of ridiculous. It sounds like low tea or midlife crisis to me or something else or even a health condition or even erectile dysfunction.

It goes without saying, of course, both people have to wanna save it to have it be saved, but the general question of “can this marriage be saved?” is off…of course it can…Everybody knows it takes two people to save it.) this is not a post where there are dealbreaker, toxic problems that are long-term or something where people would assume of course it can’t be saved. It’s the opposite. This seems like a speed bump and maybe it’s not but I’m just surprised at the description in the post thinking it’s that dire after just six months of things being different. [/quote]

But she said it’s actually been more like a year with minimal intimacy and years where his personality changed. Not that she needs to jump to divorce, but it sounds like a little more than a speed bump and probably needs outside help to remedy the marriage. [/quote]

It's funny you think OP is a she. It's a husband/father whose wife is full of resentment afteri doing all the work of raising the family while working full-time and her husband was just happy go lucky for the past 20 years. She's over it. He'll never change--and seems to be proud of it. I can tell you from experience as the wife, the resentment is overwhelming, everyday. I live with a weight of regret for not leaving earlier that makes that resentment grow every day. OP: did you ever thank your wife, one time? And when she tells you her issue is stress, how have you helped? Other than demand more "intimacy" and hugs when your selfish butt walks through that door every day?[/quote]

OP said she is a woman [/quote]

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