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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A couple thoughts ~ the older they get the greater number of adults they have in their life to answer to: teachers, coaches, neighbors, family members both immediate and extended. Do not try to manage these relationships. Your child is learning relationship skills to eventually manage adult relationships in their community. Surprise bonus: they don't have to learn everything from you. They shouldn't, and they won't.

Natural consequences ~ natural consequences is the best teacher. The best enforcer of punishment. Do not shield them from natural consequences.

Regarding decisions of maturity ~ what they are ready for, and when ... Do not impede. Do not promote.[/quote]
I also found this commentary insightful. Ours are nearing the end of HS and, after reading this, realized that they [i]have[/i] found some wonderful adult mentors along the way. Sometimes, they’ve even been kind enough to mentor me & DH. Their sometimes older, sometimes younger perspectives and their knowledge of our child provided some meaningful and necessary counsel.

Ours are also in JROTC and the Senior MI opened Freshman/LE1 Open House Night with “Do Not Save Your Cadet.”  That HS, that “now” is the time to let them fail - when the consequences are not as great and they still have a support system to help if there’s real trouble. No truer words ever spoken.

Thanks OP for starting the thread and to PPs for some thoughtful replies. [/quote]

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