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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am happily married and have random crushes on men all of the time. I always have since being a teenager and I’m over 50 now. Just stop obsessing over this one guy and look for other men to crush over too. It’s attraction but meaningless since I just acknowledge it to myself and move on. [/quote]

OP here. Can you expand more on this? I'm the sort of person who just doesn't really think of other men like that, since I'm married. Maybe a celebrity or something, but since I married my husband, it's like I turned off the part of my brain/body that process attraction to other men. Like in the same way you might just shut down attraction to your BIL or your best friend's spouse, because it's not acceptable.

This crush took me by surprise but I don't even know where to start thinking about crushing on other men. Most men I meet are dads of my kids' classmates and friends and I have no interest. My current crush was someone I met by happenstance who is totally outside my social circle. I think that was part of it. He met me as just a woman he'd never met before, not as "Larlo's mom" or "Jay's wife" or whatever. It's like he got to see a side of me most people don't see because I am normally in these roles/boxes that allow people to easily categorize me.[/quote]

Yes. Be careful OP. Very very careful.  Although, for me, once I realized I had feelings for my (soon to be) AP there wasn't a doubt in my mind that I would act on it.[/quote]

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