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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you 100% sure that every gift and kind gesture you have ever given your husband has been exactly what he wanted? That you have never missed the mark at all? Does he show appreciation if it wasn’t his favourite gift or does he tell you how disappointed he is in your gifts as they are not exactly what he would choose for himself.

Before you take the advice to tell him off, be sure that is the dynamic and precedent you want to create. That expressing disappointment and unhappiness when you put in effort to do something nice or give him a gift you thought was thoughtful but he doesn’t love it is the response you want from now on.

For us, we would appreciate the gesture and gift and good intentions and then slowly move things out or change things over. [/quote]

She needs to set the precedent that this is her space. He has his space and they share a bedroom and the rest of the house. [/quote]

Do you really think he would have gotten support on here if while he was setting up his office and ensuite, OP has gotten him some towels and a garbage can and hooks and he had responded with tears and disappointment and told her she was controlling, passive aggressive, not thoughtful at all and how dare she mess with his space? That he wasn’t going to sore her deeming air be a doormat so she better get her unwanted m stuff out of his space and her touch any run in there again.

I highly doubt posters would have cheered him for coming down hard in her for getting him a few things for his space…if he followed the advice in this thread. To tell her I am setting a precedent so you know not to be so thoughtless and controlling. [/quote]

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