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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son is 17 and has ADHD.  It makes him more immature than his peers.  He is dating a girl who is one year younger. I think she is fabulous and I spend more time making sure he is treating her well.  Accepting boundaries, being considerate, driving safely, respecting her (and her parents' wishes).  I also talk to him about making sure his girlfriend treats him well, too.  Honest, managing any arguments in a healthy way, not being overly clingy ([b]they signed up for Life 360 to track each other and I nixed that fast[/b]).

If things were ideal, I wish he would just play sports and focus on school.  I do worry that if this relationship ends, he will be crushed and it will impact his studies. But so far he seems to be managing things fairly well.  Grades have slipped a bit but not horribly.  He needs to learn (and I think he is) how to manage different aspects of his life and find an appropriate balance.

I can't imagine disliking a girlfriend unless she is mean and manipulative. I've told my son from a young age, find a partner who is kind, and you are kind to them -- all the other stuff like attraction, values, goals, sense of humor, etc. will work itself out.  I don't care if she wants to be a hair stylist or a bioengineer or a stay at home partner.  That's all for my son to figure out.  But kindness?   That's the nonnegotiable piece.  On both sides. [/quote

Wow times have changed! Good thing they had you to convince them this was a lot for a high school relationship![/quote]

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