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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop having a “provider mindset.” This isn’t the 1950s.[/quote]

I'm a feminist and I don't think it's anti-feminist to seek out a man who wants to be a provider (even though I didn't... maybe because I didn't). If you want kids, having a partner who will view it as his responsibility to make sure the family is financially provided for will give you a lot more options when the kids are small, and also helps to even things out a bit since women do all this unpaid labor around pregnancy and childbirth. Also, if you know up front you want to be a SAHM, you absolutely have to find someone who will be on board with that, which means finding someone who *wants* to be the sole earner during the years you aren't making money. I don't view wanting to be a SAHM as a 1950s attitude, especially if you just want to do it when your kids are young. Raising kids is important, under appreciated work, and if a family wants to set it up so that one person earns money to enable the other person to do that work, what's wrong with that? I also think if you want to SAHD, you should look for a woman who wants to provide for the family.[/quote]

What is your definition of "feminist?" (Hint: It's not about making the choice to stay at home -- it's about economic equality).

Are you one of these women who think SAHM is limited to child-rearing only and that the housework should be equally shared? Because that's not the correct definition. A SAHM is what we used to call a "homemaker." Your job is to look after the children AND take care of the household. A lot of women today seem to think being a SAHM just means intensive mothering (i.e. being a nanny) and that their husbands should shoulder an equal burden of cooking and cleaning. That's not how it works. At least not in successful marriages.[/quote]

We're all so lucky to have YOU to explain to others how all marriages with a SAHP should work!!!!![/quote]

The post spoke a lot of truth and as expected some lazy women will see themselves in it and object.[/quote]

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