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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m turning 50 and ready to drop the rope. I just want to be who I am naturally, eat what I want, and wear comfortable clothes. I’ve gained some weight and hate shopping. DH doesn’t say anything to me regarding my appearance, good or bad. Any other women let things go?  Did it affect your marriage?[/quote]

My wife did the same thing about a year or so ago and I hate to admit it but I feel like its damaged our connection.  We have our minor issues like every couple.  There’s a lot of responsibility in raising our son and running our business.  Whenever she gets stressed she really takes it out on us - she’s a naturally very driven person.  This works great in the business world but is hard on personal relationships.

In the past, it would make me resent her but the resent would fade within days because I was so attracted to her.  Now that she’s given up there’s really no attraction and nothing to pull me back in.  Like I can’t remember a time in our 20 year relationship where there was just zero attraction and no interest in sleeping with her.  The problem now is that there’s nothing to pull me back whenever she treats me like crap.  Each time she does that I just have less interest in being around her.

I would say that if you want to let yourself go, make sure that you make things better in other areas to compensate - maybe it will help.[/quote]

Did you keep yourself up for her? Is your personality always sparkling?  I'd really lover you wife's take on the situation[/quote]

Yes, I do stay fit and try to be the best version of myself though I’m certainly not perfect. Thats all I ask for in return - its not for her to dress nice or look attractive all the time.  I’d settle for staying fit and wearing athleisure - no need to dress up for me.[/quote]

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