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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like he picked his job over you.  This board is full of women who thought that was a good bet so long as the money flowed, but wound up in miserable marriages when the kids came and the man never changed.  He showed you what his priorities are, I guess it's up to you if that's what you want, but don't expect more.[/quote]

OP here. He discussed it with me but it was a good opportunity that he likely wouldn’t get again. He has worked at his job since he got out of the military. It was always his dream to move up and get to where he is now. I didn’t want to squander what he worked over a decade for. [/quote]

You are clearly still in love with him because you are defending his CHOICE to pick his career over you. And I get it. You love this guy and wanted (probably still want) a future with him. But before you forge ahead…really stop and think about why he’s coming back. Is it for you? Did he miss you so much that he just couldn’t bear the idea of having sacrificed you to his career? Or is it because his job sent him back to the area and two birds/one stone bc may as well pick up with you since that was a pretty good thing…?
Men (even career-driven men) will go after the girl they want when they know they want her. I suspect he didn’t really know or was ambivalent, so he took the job.
Maybe he changed his mind once he was gone and you ended it. Or maybe he was coming bc back anyway so “might as well see if Larla wants to get back together”

My point is, you need to br aware of the difference and decide if that impacts your decision. Sadly I suspect that “he’s just not that into you” and you are an option—not a priority. But—either way, you are t over him so it’s not really fair to string the new guy along. 
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