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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've read the entire thread OP. I don't understand why you wouldn't go, frankly.[/quote]

You wouldn’t be hesitant to go away for several days with a person who refuses to see you for a few hours?

I have seen her once in 5 years and she still refuses to see me.[/quote]

If you’re asking her to drive from North Carolina to Maryland to hang out with you for a couple hours, I’m surprised she’s still friends with you at all. [/quote]

I already said I would drive to her and the location was 3-4 hours.

I’m probably going to decline. [/quote]
A 4 hour drive is not a day trip. Most people won’t do that unless it’s for a very good reason like driving from an off-tour place to NYC to see Beyonce or Taylor Swift.

I think you might have an unrealistic expectation that your friendship will look exactly as it did 5 years ago, pre-Covid when she was single and probably still in her twenties. Distance is a real barrier, frankly.

She might have been receptive to an offer to vacation together from you even, but you’re just really stuck on this 8 hr trip to do not anything particularly special. [/quote]

We are in our forties. I have known her for over thirty years.

For over five years, she has cancelled or declined every effort. This is not about next week. I already said she does not have to drive at all so it isn’t about some 8 hour trip. She actually lives on the way to my parents’ house so we literally drive by her multiple times per year. I could exit off the highway and be at her place with a 10 min detour. That is how I would see her for a decade. I would have lunch or spend a night or she would come see me near my parents. Before I had kids and when we were younger, she would come to me at my parents often.

Both she and my parents would be a long day trip but I have done it many times. My parents are elderly and I have gone to check on them and drive back on the same day.[/quote]

Sounds like she has had some depression. [/quote]

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