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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To be fair OP, you are also judging their parenting and their kids so it's like tea calling kettle black and he didn't say any of it to your DD. However, you can ask them that their son said these hurtful things and look for their response.[/quote]

She’s judging them on an anonymous forum. Not at all the same thing. I’d speak directly to the father. He should apologize to DD. [b]All you [i]let it go[/i] posters would ruminate if it was your kid.[/b] Show your daughter that she is your priority and deserves respect. Teach her how to command respect in the most disarming way.[b] Describing someone as dumb is very low brow coming from an adult. [/b]I think you give this family way too much credit. Mom isn’t a tiger mom, she’s a control freak or a puppet whose husband holds the strings. Dad is a jerk. Make him apologize. [/quote]

All true.

But truly, I would "let it go" if I were OP - for exactly the reason you gave.

This person and his opinions are not worth her time. If I were her, I would not bother seeking an apology or even speaking with him about it. That's what I mean by "let it go."

Why? Because I'd be done with the friendship for now. Sure, I'd be pleasant when I saw him, but I'd back way off. (Was it Maya Angelou who said, When people show you who they are, trust them and act accordingly? I'm all about THAT.)

I'd focus instead on my DD.  Validating that what he said was unkind and hurtful, and just plain untrue. All with a gentle reminder that some people are obsessed with their own issues and priorities, and can act like jerks as a result. Even adults who are usually nice. When people feel stressed and insecure, sometimes they act out. That's about THEM, not her. (That mindset is a bit of innoculation and protection from the crazy competitive types in this world. No doubt she'll experience it again with others. So the mindset is good for relilience, I think.)

Anyway, "let it go" is about the relationship with this dad/couple. Let them work out their anxiety/competitiveness re college admissions on their own. You and your family don't need to deal with their stuff. GL.[/quote]

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