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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is awkward.  Maybe just focus on your 2 kids right now. [/quote]

This. You should focus on your children. [/quote]

Do you euphemistically mean “never date”? If so, let’s be clear about it. I was divorced and was always “focused on my children.” They were always the priority, but I did get to date again (and remarry).

OP, a few helpful responses are in the thread here. Please ignore the ones that say that you should never date, ever, and be a spinster forever. (No one would ever tell a widower man that!) When you’re emotionally ready — and because you asked the question, we should assume that you are — dip a toe into the dating pool. Don’t expect everything to happen immediately. You’ll meet some duds, but some good ones, too. Maybe something will gradually become a long-term thing, and maybe not. But dating is supposed to be fun, and starting to have fun again is precisely what you deserve after what you’ve been through.[/quote]

I grew up with kids whose dad remarried soon after their mom died from cancer. He married another widow. She was a step witch. It ended badly for his kids, not hers. Dad should have focused on raising his young kids, not dating.

No, you shouldn’t be a spinster forever, but you can put off dating and focus on your kids instead of coming from a place desperation. Eventually, OP will be ready and won’t be posting on Internet forums. She’ll just start dating for fun, not because she hates being without a man. The fact that she’s posting on here shows how not ready she is. H the fact that she’s worried about how she compares to other singles illustrates that of mind isn’t right, no matter how much she wants it to be. Her focus should be on her kids. [/quote]

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