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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In 1955, 2.3% of marriages ended in divorce. Today it is between 35-50%. That’s huge! Are marriages a lot worse today or are men worse husbands/women worse wives? Were 47.7% of people just absolutely depressed and miserable in their marriages in the 50s and we don’t know about it?[/quote]'

I think ... yes, people were miserable and unhappy in the 1950s. In the 50s women were almost often dependent on men. They were discriminated against when getting jobs (it would go to a man who had a family to feed), they were paid less (because they weren't men with families to support), financially (they couldn't get a credit card without a male co-signer), in expectations (nobody thought women had enough brains or fortitude to survive). They'd often lose their kids b/c they didn't have a job. Birth control couldn't be had by unmarried women. So all of this leads one to weigh their options and ... stay married.[/quote]

My mother who was married in the early 1960’s, worked very hard at her marriage. She, like many women of her generation, was married to someone who was completely uncompromising and who always got his own way. We had all these cute little expressions back then that basically meant “he’s a narcissistic as*hat”  - like “he rules the roost” and “its his way or the highway.”   But she put up with things that I can’t imagine putting up with. For example, he didn’t like chicken and he didn’t like chocolate so those foods were never purchased or served in his house. He always picked out the car and he always bought a green one cuz that was his favorite color. I couldn’t tell you whether my mother had a favorite color or food. She wasn’t allowed one. He routinely berated her and called her names in front of us, would wake us all up in the middle of the night to look for something he had misplaced, he was an alcoholic who spent the grocery money on beer and cigarettes back when we were poor. He chose the house and the neighborhood. We couldn’t have a dog because he did not like animals. We basically didn’t talk when he was around. This is the reality that the passport bros want to re establish. King of his castle indeed. Why would any educated woman with other options sign up for this?[/quote]

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