Reply to My teenage daughter is worrie that her parents' bad relationship makes her a less desirable future partner

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "My teenage daughter is worrie that her parents' bad relationship makes her a less desirable future partner"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's right, but she's also wrong, in that by far the most important criteria for marriage is HER intelligence, kindness, money/career and beauty (maybe the last is most important in the eyes of some men, but maybe don't insist on that).

Anyway. What I'm impressed with is that she can express this and have a mature conversation about it. At her age, I wasn't even thinking about boys, let alone in-laws.

You need to really insist that what SHE makes of herself is the most important. Both for her own happiness, and sense of self-worth, and for any future relationships.

[/quote]

I think it's really pretty profoundly weird that a teen is hung up on what her future husband and in-laws will think. That too, influenced by K-drama, which is FICTION.

Marriage is at least 4 or 5 years down the road, right? Parents might get divorced. One or the other of them might not be alive. Her future husband might not have parents. His family might be just as dysfunctional. It's just not a thing for a teen to worry about things not in her control, and so far into her future. She should focus on her studies and her future/career, not some imaginary in-laws that may or may not look down their nose at her.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics