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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. This thread has been enlightening in many ways. I do not have a traditional deal job so it’s unrealistic to think I would be at a desk 9-5 anyway. I think I can work something out that gives me the flexibility I need, even if it’s less than what I have now. I have a unique skill set, so hopefully that’s worth some flexibility to them. [/quote]

If you are excited about the opportunity, I think that says a lot. Also, for those arguing the pay bump isn’t that much, you have no idea what kind of pay increase this will translate to 5-10 years from now (and beyond) from the resulting advancement.

OP I work with lots of really successful moms and I just don’t see the need for all this doom and gloom in the comments.[/quote]

Thank you!!! I have a lot of trusted mom friends with big, in-person, long hours jobs and they all universally say get your husband on board and go get your big opportunity.

Isn’t that what we want our kids to see? I feel like we are all trying to boomerang back to the 1950s a bit. (Yes, my moon works, but that’s a secret…)[/quote]

I am the PP who said 4 days in office is a huge transition and I wouldn't do it. I am not trying to boomerang back to the 50s, but am offering my opinion based on my personal experience doing what OP is proposing. I have what many would call a high-powered career (though I don't make quite that much money) and I really enjoy it but I am pooped! My advice is not intended to banish OP to the kitchen barefoot but to share my experience and acknowledge a reality - elementary school age is really not friendly to WOH parents. Of course it's possible, but if you aren't used to the day to day grind, you might not realize how hard it can be.

I am glad she is excited for the opportunity and wish her the very best, but I think a lot of people who have never done it grossly underestimate how difficult it can be to combine in-person work and potentially a long commute with elementary kids.  I have a very supportive and flexible DH who meets the bus most days but I still want to be there for my kids M-F and I do that to the detriment of my own mental and physical well-being. There is probably some secret sauce to making this work better but I haven't figured it out yet. YMMV and I hope OP's does!! [/quote]

Left out the final part of my comment - what I really want my kids to see is a sane and happy mom and a functional marital relationship. That is the baseline. If they also take away that mom had an awesome career that she worked hard for and enjoyed, that's great, but to me, that is less important than the family functioning well on a day-to-day basis. [/quote]

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