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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I've decided to send the pictures, only because I have to. Yes, I know the adoption is final, & have nothing to worry about. And, I am grateful that I was chosen, but does that mean I am obligated forever to let her know how I'm doing raising her biological child?  I agree w/the PP's, who understand the advocacy of foreign adoptions.  My thing is, if you made a decision, albeit a difficult one, to allow another family to adopt your child, then that family should be left alone to do so, without their interference.   Maybe a one time photo, but this, what I believe is a "check-in or report in to" a birth family annually kind of makes you feel like they're forever a part of this, & it sucks.  Thank God we didn't agree to visitation.  Call me cruel, but that's how I, and many others, feel. [/quote]

[b]Your kid is going to need serious therapy because of you and your attitude. [/b][/quote]

Would love to be a fly on the wall the first time OP's teenage adopted child screams "You're not my REAL mother".  Guaranteed that it's going to happen!   I don't get the impression that the OP is going to be the least bit sympathetic to the emotional pain and loss an adoptee feels, particularly in the teenage years and particularly when they have insecure adopted parents.  This thread really reinforces how much I hate adoption.  OP--does your insecurity stem from infertility grief?  I really think you need counseling sooner rather than later if you're ever going to retain your sanity while raising this child and maintaining your obligations to the birthfamily---they gave you their child, after all!!

Signed,
Grown Adoptee who had adoptive parents just like the OP[/quote]

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