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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have no advice, but I feel for you. I would also be heartbroken and really worried if this was my son who is currently 18 and has a gf that he seems head over heels for. And I worry that he might make decisions that is not the best for him.

My brother did something similar in that he basically does whatever his wife wants at the expense of his family.  He has an estranged relationship with the rest of our family.  The only saving grace is that he's not unhealthy. I think the wife makes sure he eats healthy, at least. I think that's why my parents tolerate her.[/quote]

I would be okay not to have much contact with him, if his GF pushed him to pursue his dreams, hobbies and healthy eating/exercising habit.

My son was a big foodie ([b]cooked restaurant quality dishes[/b] and had a dream one day to travel the world to learn cooking from world renowned chefs). He loved photography and singing ([b]both at a professional level)[/b]. He got paid for senior photography and was part of this singing troupe that gets invited to major international venues. He used to exercise regularly and loved to dress well. He was [b]known for his keen dress sense and would help friends pick wardrobes[/b]. He has stopped all these over the last one and half years.

It kills me to see him give up so much. His association with his GF might just be correlation and not causation.

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trolls always go to far[/quote]

I think we just need to take it all with a huge grain of salt. The "cooked restaurant quality dishes" means OP was Mommie-level-impressed when DS taught himself how to make a french omelet on YouTube. The "paid for senior photography" was a gift card from his friend's parents when he experimented with taking senior pictures on his iPhone. The "singing troupe" that "gets invited to major international venues" is a high school or college madrigals group that went to a competition in Canada. I mean, maybe it was all slightly better than that, but we are hearing all of this through someone who has seen it through Mommie-colored-glasses. I never believe the grandiose crap people say about their kids. They are all little Einstein/Mozart/Federer. [/quote]
Haha I know of exactly one kid from my dc’s school who was “interested in cooking” (that is all his mom said). He graduated from the CIA and opened his own restaurant before the  age of 30. [/quote]

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