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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

So they talked and the “break” is over. Idk the exact details but they’re back on again. Sigh.

When I picked him up from school, he wanted me to take him to the store so he could buy her flowers. He knows that tulips are her favorite so he got those and left them at her front door with a little note as a surprise.

Idk what to think. It’s a nice gesture but I wonder if he’s being too much of a “sure thing” again for her liking. Part of me thinks he is setting himself up to get hurt again and part of me thinks this is the way some people have to learn things?

Part of me also remembers being that age and wishing for a devoted boyfriend who would bring me flowers and call when he said he would and not cheat, etc.

Idk where he picks up his ideas from bc my understanding from media is that boys his age are usually commitphobes. And here he is trying to lock her down. [/quote] Sorry Op but I strongly disagree with the advice to butt out, you need to reverse genders and ask yourself what would you’d say if your daughter was being treated this way by her boyfriend. Blowing off plans to go hang with friends is a jerk behavior. Media may be telling you that this generation are commitment phobex but social media is telling girls that they should be showered with expensive dates, gifts and flowers and their dates are expected to do it EVERY time. You need to play a proactive role in deprogramming this toxic messaging. Healthy relationships don’t require one person to be treated like a doormat. If you son wants a certain type of relationship and he shouldn’t lower his standards or beg for her scraps of time. Having a nice guy pining for you is today’s equivalent of “notch in the belt”.  Watch a few TikTok’s on this subject OP, eye opening stuff.[/quote]

#boymom
#girlshaming[/quote]

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