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Reply to "The man I'm dating told me he'd like me to stay home after kids, I don't want to do that."
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[quote=Anonymous]SAH is not right or wrong. But you aren't compatible if you want him to share in taking care of the kids, because he has said he doesn't want to - don't expect that to change. If your HHI would be high enough to pay for a nanny and other time-saving expenses while you both work, have another conversation with him. Help him understand how continuing to work will make you a better mom (because it feels something you need as a person, or whatever your reasons are) than you would be if you SAH and what the two of you could do to make it work. See how he responds and if there is mutual respect. Don't go forward if there is not mutual respect. If you do go forward, be prepared that you will be the one who has to take the sacrifice if plan A of hiring a nanny, etc., doesn't work out -- because, again, he's said he doesn't want to take care of kids. [/quote]
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