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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My BIL expects us to not only care for him but wants to live with us or he's suggested we move to where he is.

I care deeply about him but hell to the no, none of the above will happen. He has driven off family, no longer has any friends and constantly bickers with the neighbors over stupid stuff. His sister lives a city block from him and she never visits or calls. I think the house is so dirty she refuses to go there.

He's got a chip on his shoulder the size of a truck tire. He is by far the laziest human on this ship. I am not exaggerating either. This man goes grocery shopping, leaves his groceries in the car except for cold stuff and just takes out what he needs daily. Plus he has cats. We don't know how many but it's a lot. I buy his cat food because I'm afraid he will feed the cats some people food that will make them sick. He eats things no one should ever eat.

All I know is I hope I die before my husband does because I will end up having to take care of him in his old age. I can't do it. I really can't. If it were my parents I would gladly do what I needed to do but not with him. The stress alone would literally kill me.  
Should my husband go before me I am moving to another state and will have my sister come live with me.[/quote]
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Textbook autism, PP. [/b][b]Most of these failure to launch adults are autistic. The disorder is often comorbid with social and generalized anxiety, OCD, mental rigidity, and executive function issues (ADHD). He doesn't clean his house because he can't. He hoards because he's both a cheapskate and he can't triage and sort. He transgresses things like expiration dates and stores things in his car, because he's not restricted by social mores and has discovered it's OK.

My husband is autistic. If he was a little more impacted by it than he is, and didn't have a high IQ to stave off the worse of it, he would be your BIL. As it is, I have to keep a watchful eye on expiration dates and draw red lines for his hoarding tendencies.[/b]

Wow, suddenly, my life with my mom, dad, sister and her kids, and her husband are starting to make sense.

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+1. Same with MIL and SIL. [/quote]

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