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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They sound like caring loving grandparents OP. This is fairly normal.among caring loving families. My family was / is not like this at all, so I wonder if OP didn't have this in her childhood at all either? [/quote]

I think there's a range. I had wonderful grandparents but they were nothing like this. They were young and would take 4 or 5 grandchildren (all the cousins) to their house for the whole summer, go camping and fishing and canoeing with us, teach us to sew or do woodworking, cook us dinner, ferry us to visit every other relative in sight, who would feed us candy. They loved us and they made that love known but they did not think we were perfect by any means and, in fact, frequently offered carefully tailored advice to each of us on how to improve ourselves. :)

My inlaws, however, are just like OP describes. And yes we have the only grandchildren. It used to bother me but I learned to reframe and just appreciate how much they love the kids and how special they make the kids feel. So yeah, if Granny thinks kid #1 has the most gorgeous blond curls she's ever seen (DC's hair is brown and straight, but she thinks any hair that isn't almost black is blond), or thinks kid #2 - who is objectively tone deaf - sings like an angel, whatever. It's silly but harmless. As the kids get older they understand that their grandparents see them through rose-colored glasses and dote on them and that they are not, in fact, the most amazing people to ever walk this planet.[/quote]

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