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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op I think your request is very reasonable.

I’m 43 DH s 46. We ve been together for 14 years. 
If we are apart ( different country.. ) we talk everyday .
If we r at work, we call or text at lunch or when we r done at work to tell one another that we r done and getting home ( to pick up our kid or take him somewhere or play with our cats) .
Once one of us is home first, we send each other pictures of our kid and cats. 🐈 . And yes we are home nightly.

My colleague has a stay at home wife with four kids. They r in the 50s. His wife call him a work daily, at lunch time. ( and yes they go home nightly and see each other everyn day)

I think this is a minimal request, it should not be a request. If I d be relationship with someone, I want them to like me enough to want to talk to me, meet me daily. That’s all.

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You actually got there at the end, and didn't even realize it.  You and your husband call and text because you want to.  It isn't an obligation.  Surely you can see the difference between that and "I require a call in the evenings so you can prove to me that you are home - otherwise, I don't feel like I'm in a monogamous relationship?"  [/quote]

OP here. I agree with PP it should not be a request, and it’s never had to be in the past. If someone is interested in me they’ve always eventually gotten into the habit of us calling one another at night. The reason why I considered talking about it to my current boyfriend is because I do in fact like him. And figured we should at least communicate before determining that this was a dealbreaker. Neither of us had to be wrong. We can just have different communication needs/preferences and not be a good match because of it. I hate texting for instance, but I compromise and do it because he says that he needs that. [/quote]

Oh, please.  You are trying to recast this as "different communications needs/preferences" an d it's not that at all.  There's so much more going on - your insecurity and controlling tendencies, primarily.   [/quote]

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