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[quote=Anonymous]The kids will find out. The kids always find out. They got hurt the moment your wife decided to cheat on the family. You are under no obligation to help her keep this secret, anyone claiming otherwise needs to adjust their thinking. Would they tell someone suffering from physical abuse to protect the abuser so the kids can have a relationship with that person? No. Affairs are an extreme form of psychological abuse, and the fallout hurts an entire generation. I think that in the moment of telling the kids about the divorce, you probably don’t need to get into specifics. They will want to know how it will impact their lives, schedules, etc. leave it at that. You can say that being married requires both parties to keep certain promises to each other, and that mom couldn’t/wouldn’t and that means you can’t stay married. Acknowledge that you are all sad, and pivot to answering their questions. [/quote]
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