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[quote=Anonymous]Early 50s. Some things are harder. My body breaks more easily than it used to (work on mobility and strength training now, ye youngers!). Stuff with aging parents is hard and depressing and time-consuming, and it brings up a lot of emotional issues. I’m sad that time is passing as quickly as it is. I worry about money more as retirement looms.

But on the whole, I think I am happier than I was. Or at least more at ease in my own life and my own skin.

Good things: I have a stronger intuition than I used to have, which allows me to trust my gut and takes me out of the cycle of endless overthinking. I’m better at knowing how I feel, and why, which allows me to deal with issues head-on, and with clarity, instead of spinning about things that don’t actually get to the heart of the matter. I’m definitely better at appreciating simple pleasures. And there’s a whole host of things about which I no longer give a f*ck. That is so freeing.

Also, I feel like as the kids have gotten older I’ve been better able to bring my full self into our relationship. When they were little it felt like the things they needed were so generic. I was supposed to be the same kind of parent as people with whom I had zero in common. Now I can be my own kind of parent in a way that I couldn’t when life was a haze of snacks and carpools and laundry and schedules.

I guess I feel like a more complete version of myself than I used to. I like that. But it’s all a fragile balance. Right now the good outweighs the bad, but I also recognize that some of this is arbitrary and temporary, and that at any point, the balance could shift. [/quote]

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