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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All I can say is that I have sympathy with you. It is so maddening when they talk about not wanting to trouble me or be a burden or whatever, and yet they make absolutely no changes in their life that would prevent that from happening. Nor will they let me do anything for them that would be a real change to prevent future catastrophes.

I have to remind myself that they are, at some level, incapable of changing at this point. Their executive function skills have disappeared. They are just kind of hanging onto anything that is familiar and comforting. They recognize for example that they have created a house full of junk that I am going to have to deal with and they feel bad about that. But they simultaneously are not capable of doing anything different.

I’m taking a lesson from this and realizing that if [b]I want to not do this to my children I have to take action way before I think I need to, while I still can[/b].[/quote]

DP. This real and deep insight. [/quote]

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