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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me start by saying she's a nice person, and my oldest and my other sister's kids love her, but she's  soon to be 40, single, makes good money and no kids so she just doesn't understand things.

Like she just asked if my sister and I would be interested in doing a summer trip with the family, she's thinking of Italy, and Spain. Australia or New Zealand  or we could go to Hawaii if  we wanted to stay in the States. She's going to pay for everything including two nannies for us. She just wants to do something special for  her birthday, and we haven't traveled as a family in years. She doesn't get that as a mom of a 3-year-old and a 8 month old this trip wouldn't be relaxing for me, or our sister with older kids  She doesn't get that our nieces and nephew have activities and maybe want to do camps or hang out with friends and not aunts for half the summer.  Her solution when I mentioned this was that she'd hire some nannies to give us a break and could hire someone to help us pack. I can tell she was disappointed when I said no, I don't like disappointing her, but I wish she could just be a little more realistic sometimes.[/quote]

Have you calmly and politely explained to her the reasons it would not be realistic? She may not have thought out the logistics. Some people seem to think a baby is like a baby doll, you just pick it up, take it anywhere, change a diaper, give a bottle and it remains content. If she truly doesn't get it and tries to make you feel bad, I would detach with love a bit. Do things your family can handle, but just accept she is limited in empathy for things she has not experienced and don't feel responsible for her feelings.[/quote]

Lots of families do travel internationally (and domestically) with infants and toddlers.  OP is saying that she wouldn't be able to relax in Hawaii with a sister paying for a nanny?  Ummm... OK.[/quote]

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