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[quote=Anonymous]Go to therapy.  You need to figure out how, as a mother, you want to model to your children how to deal with difficult people.  You don't yet have a good sense of that and need to get that straightened out.  Especially if you have difficult parents, and it sounds like you do given the phone messages.

Your are not obligated to be in touch with them, but it doesn't sound like you're ready to permanently cut them off either, and that's, in my opinion a good thing.

Get a therapist who can help you figure out how to navigate this transition in your life, which would be major without your parental estrangement but is now even more difficult due to this estrangement.

I wish the best to you right now.  You are raw and hurting and healing (literally).

I think the previous posters were right.  You parents want a superficial relationship.  Please learn how to set boundaries and give them a superficial relationship with you and their grandchild and don't expect more than they can give.

And keep in mind that you're setting your own relationship with your child up for failure if you show them that cutting people off permanently when they royally screw up is the best way to handle it.  We are all imperfect.  Forgiveness and grace are the better path, especially when dealing with immature people like your parents.[/quote]

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