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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It takes maturity and confidence to say no to hidden strings. My parents were obsessed with using money as control. Money was everything to them. They were the nastiest, greediest, selfish, materialistic people I have ever encountered. It took me until my early twenties to break away from it and turn down things without exception.

When I was in undergraduate school I had weird roommates freshman year. My parents pounced when I said second semester I was going to live an apartment with a different room mate for less than what the schools housing cost. They insisted on buying a small one bedroom condo. I fell for it, they bought the condo even though I didn’t like it from a friend who was selling it. The mortgage and condo fee and weekly grocery was less than the student housing and meal plan. What I didn’t realize was that my dad kept refinancing as equity grew and interest rates went down. He made a good deal of money out of the condo he bought me.

When I graduated I wanted to sell it. They offered me a house if I moved back to their city. I said no. They offered full pay for graduate school, a house and a car plus a weekly spending amount. I said no.  At 22, this is all hard to say no to when you are just starting out but I was confident I would make it. They were so angry at first and then seemed to accept it but would constantly test for any openings.  I found a really good job and did grad school at night which I could afford.

My sibling wasn’t as strong, went for the house, vacations, car, full pay grad school but had to live constantly under their control. Hated it but married a weird guy that worked for my father so they were both under him. She always seemed miserable. My mother would taunt us that she would out live my father and she’d control the money so you had better insert whatever she wanted. I finally broke contact with her after he died. [/quote]

I'm not following your story at all. Why did you think the condo was yours? They bought a condo for you to live in, it's theirs. It was a wise investment decision for them to buy something instead of just throwing money away on a dorm or an apartment. But why did you think it was yours to sell and do what you want with the proceeds?[/quote]

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