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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW and I agree kids bedtime is 830. DW likes to decompress by scrolling instagram when we are in bed getting ready to go to sleep. Last night she had the kids in our bed scrolling IG, playing random Spotify songs, and generally being noisy past 9pm. I got into bed with a book and was trying to read but the commotion was highly distracting.  I looked over as she was scrolling Spotify playing songs and she realized it was late and loud so said “kids, dad doesn’t want you in the room time to go to bed”

This is at least the 5th time this has happened in the last year or so. I have requested a boundary that our bedroom is not family entertainment space, especially after 830, as we have a 4 level townhouse with many other spaces for that.

I was most annoyed that she framed it to the kids as me not wanting them there, rather than she taking responsibility for her ignoring what I think is a very reasonable request. And I was upset that there was no acknowledgment or apology last night or this morning when I brought it up, asking how do we keep this boundary that we agreed to previously. The apology came 10 mins into an argument, which I felt I “wrung” out of her. I just think it’s so inconsiderate to do something like that, multiple times, and I wonder how someone can treat their spouse that way. “Forgetting what time it is” seems to me another way of saying “I don’t really care about what is importing to you” but am I being too sensitive or overreacting?

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I hate these types of mothers. They want to be cool and act as if their friends with their kids instead of a parent.  No, a parent should not be in bed showing kids social media (which is horrible for them) at bedtime.  Showing them screen time at bedtime is also bad.

All you horrible parents who don't get it, you never will until your kids grow up and act out.  Children thrive best with structure and routine.  End of story.[/quote]

+1. OP’s wife sounds like a vapid dud. I am a mom and to me, “fun with mom before bed”= chatting, reading together or to each other, telling stories or jokes, tickle fight, listening to music. Not scrolling on the phone. How pathetic.

And no, 8:30am is not too early for bedtime.[/quote]

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