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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your sister needs ways to fill her time outside of work and is developing a codependency on your family to fill that time too much for your comfort and availability.

If the getting together feels too much too often, can you just reduce the family events and visits to a more manageable schedule?[/quote]

One sister visiting another a few times a year is codependency?  wow.

Of course OP can "set boundaries" (which as a reminder is something you set and hold for yourself, not something other people hold for you) and never see her sister at all if she wants to, but wanting to be an involved aunt by visiting a few times a year and trying to build a relationships with nieces and nephews beyond sending them gifts does not make you "codependent".  I have my own family and still try to build a relationship with my sisters kids so that I can be another trusted and supportive adults in their lives, and I'd love for my kids to have that with my sister.  Our aunts and uncles were very distant. Its their choice that they wanted to do that, but also sad my sister and I only had our parents versus a community of adults we knew were there for us.[/quote]

Swim meets and holidays are not a few times a year.  Sounds like she comes several weekends a month.  [/quote]

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