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[quote=Anonymous]So if the family is middle eastern, then brothers/father are responsible for the well being of unmarried sister and her children, I think.  I do not know how this applies if the sister's spouse is not dead but divorced her. OP, this is complicated. I had a colleague who was widowed suddenly many years ago, her middle eastern husband had most of the assets in his sister's name or she was the beneficiary. Luckily her kids were grown, so she didn't face decades of expenses, but it was a very harsh shock to find it out. My friend is a professional in a respectable career, but he took care of the bills and she never asked questions about assets, etc.

Sending you good vibes, but not sure what would help in practical terms. If you are from same culture you can and should ask your own family for guidance. If you are not - watch your back on any financials however you can. E.g. until you've seen his agreement with sister if it's an "investment" reserve the right to veto it. This of course assumes that you can veto stuff in your relationship or that the resources are joint.  Be prepared to burn some social capital with his family if you refuse - you'll be the bad apple. In the end it all depends if your feelings are more important to your husband than family disapproval...[/quote]

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