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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, stop talking to your kid about whether she is attracted to men or women. Just stop. Let go of this.

Focus on how you can support her meeting more people. Talk to her about joining a club at college, etc. talk about her plans for the summer. Is she coming home? Is she getting a job? Brainstorm a plan that will put her around various groups of people.

She needs to make friends, not love interests. Let the girlfriend situation just play out. Focus on expanding her ability to meet people and find friends.[/quote]

This is what I am doing exactly. trying very, very hard. I never talk about dating with her just ways to connect with others and form consistent friendships. But then I get frustrated on a Saturday when GF is coming to visit. very frustrated.

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I'm sure that comes across.

So you are completely unsuccessful at it.

This is a you problem, OP. She may have other issues, social anxiety, social skills problems, etc. and you are so caught up that the forest is being missed for the trees due to your own emotional reactivity and homophobia. You may be right about everything but that does not help the situation.

Did your DD have friends in middle school and high school? Did she have interests, hobbies, etc. that she could use to connect to others now? You say she never dated in HS? Or did she have a super close friend and keep it on the down low? Or has she always struggled a bit socially?

Where is her dad in all this, and other sibs? [/quote]

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