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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, stop talking to your kid about whether she is attracted to men or women. Just stop. Let go of this.

Focus on how you can support her meeting more people. Talk to her about joining a club at college, etc. talk about her plans for the summer. Is she coming home? Is she getting a job? Brainstorm a plan that will put her around various groups of people.

She needs to make friends, not love interests. Let the girlfriend situation just play out. Focus on expanding her ability to meet people and find friends.[/quote]

This is what I am doing exactly. trying very, very hard. I never talk about dating with her just ways to connect with others and form consistent friendships. But then I get frustrated on a Saturday when GF is coming to visit. very frustrated.

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this is an unhealthy level of enmeshment. you need therapy. [/quote]

Really? You don’t worry about your kids when you know they are making dumb decisions ?  Oh, you don’t have kids, do you?[/quote]

OP has not explained why this is a “dumb decision.” OP monitoring what her daughter is doing every Saturday at college and getting upset that she is not socializing the way she thinks she should be is extremely enmeshed. [/quote]

OP here--I get that. truly. I wish she were more independent. I think she's starting to realize that. [/quote]

Op, do you realize this need for independence?

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