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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that she has brought up she hasn’t found friends would make me feel bad too and want to help. Could you encourage her to talk to a therapist for some strategies to help her deal better with social situations. And as nicely as possible remind her that a significant other can’t fill every need and it is best for the relationship for her to make some friends of her own. This is true no matter who she is dating - man or woman.[/quote]

Op here— yes I agree on all fronts. She has kind of friends here and there but she’s craving like a group of three or four girls that always get their meals together and things like that just more consistency. I think she definitely has friends but again, just not the kind of cohesive group she would like.  it’s funny because I do have another daughter and the daughter who’s struggling to find her people is incredibly mature and very socially adept so I don’t completely understand it. I think part of it is she’s very picky about who she spends time with. I think she can get a little intolerant.  [/quote]

Your DD sounds a little like mine OP. She gets enmeshed and co-dependent when she is in a relationship. For now, forget the gender of the current partner. That is fine and let your DD explore, she will figure out her preferences. What you need to help her with is finding other people to fill out her social circle. One person cannot be everything. And what if that relationship falls apart, who else has she cultivated relationships with, who else is part of her social support group? Does she invest in these relationships when the GF is not around? Also, determine if there is any anxiety at play (that's my DD's issue) so ask questions about how she makes the first steps to connecting with others. It's okay to express that you are worried about how her social support seems to be only one person right now. Just keep asking gentle questions and plant seeds. [/quote]

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