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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just have to laugh about what people would say if their own parents started a thread about persuading their adult children to move or downsize to live within their means or to bring their grandchildren closer… 😂[/quote]

Well difference is, we will eventually have to take care of our parents as they age/are unable to live in their 3 story home (Not the OP).

Solution we found for my parents: they refused to move closer to us (we are on different coasts).  They don't want to leave their doctors and church (even though we live in a better area for doctors/medical care).  But they are right, they wouldn't be happy were we live.  We live in a very blue area, they live in a Red area in a blue/maybe purple state and would not be happy where we live.  Other sibling is not going to be any help, so all care will eventually fall on me and my spouse as my parents age.  
So after much convincing, they finally decided to sell the house and the one acre property with their big garden and lots of landscaping to keep them busy busy busy.  But they made the move at age 75 to a CCRC.  5 years later, they love it there.  Not cheap, and we had to pay the entry fee or they wouldn't have been approved.  But this way, I know they will always be well taken care of, and if they need nursing care/assisted living/dementia care, they will have a spot immediate in that area of the facility. Until then they live in independent living.  [b]They get 1 full meal a day and can budget well to include 2-3 more per week for each of them. [/b]

But most importantly they did the downsizing/getting rid of shit on their own in the 6 months before they moved in.  went from a 2.5K home with basement and garage to 1100sq ft apartment with a tiny storage space. They chose what to get rid of and what to keep.  So it will be less work for me in the future.  And we love that they are in a facility with help available should they need it and with tons of activities.  It's like the four seasons at their facility. [/quote]

Wait, are you saying the can only afford to have 2-3 meals a week in addition to their daily meal? So 9-10 meals a week? Even for an older person's appetite that isn't enough. [/quote]

No, it's how many are included on their meal plan. Other meals they cook in their own little kitchen, go out, or pay an extra dining fee. Totally normal.[/quote]

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