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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find that the best way to handle with my kids is to chime in minimally with empathy, say I get it, it sounds tough... Dor dd who likes hugs I give a hug, for ds a pat on the back, I make them a nice snack. I don't talk much and let them feel heard. Then I notice they are a LOT calmer. It's hard to do and requires really detaching emotionally in my head to actually not feel too much empathy or worry: they can sense my anxiousness when I am anxious and feed off of it.[/quote]

This. I try not to talk much unless I’m asked for my opinion and then I try to keep it very neutral unless it’s a safety issue. [/quote]

DP.

Tiptoing around your children builds up resentment in you. Remind yourself that you are the boss, you lead the way, you set the tone. It is a privilege for them to benefit from hearing your wisdom and life experience.

If you play the slave, they will not respect you. However, they need a leader and a role model.[/quote]

These last 2 comments along with all of the others is a great example of the “American /Non-Americans raising teens” thread.  As a 2nd generation, I see validity in both sides. And I sometimes struggle with what path I want to take.

Teens are complex developing individuals that need our nurturing and support. But yes, they should also respect parents/trusted adults and their wisdom. Both things are true but are often conflicting in practice. [/quote]

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