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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First thing is to convince them that they need to do some paring down. They have too much stuff and they should understand that the “kids” don’t want most of it.

I think a lot of times older folks stay in their homes because the idea of having to get rid of all of that stuff is overwhelming to them.  I know of one instance where an adult child found evidence of a mouse in one of their parent’s spare bedrooms and that lit a spark to get the house pared down. I’m pretty sure that the “mouse” in question was pure fiction but that little white lie got the whole process going,[/quote]

I don't agree with forcing parents to get rid of even some of their stuff, merely because it will be inconvenient for the adult children to sort through them. That is selfish of the ACs to ask.

I am an estate attorney, and deal with end-of-life situations on a weekly basis. That "stuff" means a lifetime of precious memories to them, their entire life. Throwing some of it out feels to them like preparing for death.

After the death the AC can go through it much more quickly and with less agony. [/quote]

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