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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who don't have money tend to live frugally and look down on those who spend money frivolously (or what would be frivolous to them).  It's a class difference.  [/quote]

My parents are rich and frugal. They also look down on those who spend money differently.  Definitely not a class thing.  I think it's an insecurity thing - they are descendants of farmers and bankers in the Midwest.  You can imagine the intergenerational trauma from the depression - stock market crash and dust bowl.  They survived and remained wealthy, perhaps frugality is how.[/quote]

Yes, but that's my point exactly.  If you grew up without money, then you can develop that mindset, and it doesn't go away just because you finally got some.  I grew up poor, and I think we are at least middle class now (I feel rich, but according to DCUM, I'm definitely not).  The result is that I still live like a poor person, very frugally, and although I could buy an expensive handbag if I wanted one, the idea of it fills me not only with anxiety (as spending a lot of money always does), but also with a kind of disgust at the frivolity of such a thing.  [/quote]

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