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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It really depends on your relationship with your nanny, and your nanny's personality.

I've had nannies who were super professional and would be touched by a thoughtful coffee now and then, but who would never even notice me walking in with my own coffee - they were too busy with their own duties.  We had clear boundaries.

I also had a nanny who was young, very into Starbucks (like she thought it was SO COOL and a status symbol or whatever).  She absolutely would've noticed my coffee cups, and would've taken to heart if I didn't get her a cup.  She'd probably pout if I continually excluded her from my Starbies trips.  She had less boundaries.  With her I probably would've always gotten her a cup and chalked up the price of doing business with this particular nanny / trying to keep her happy.

But yeah in general if you have good boundaries, I think it's crazy to always get her a cup.  Like in the professional world, I can't imagine always having to get my secretary or colleagues a cup of coffee every time I went to Starbucks.  Every once in a while is a kind gesture, but boundaries man.[/quote]

+1 i think it depends on your nanny and your relationship. I get lunch and coffee way too often for it to be feasible for me to offer to get something for her. I get takeout lunch because then I’m not in the kitchen while she’s giving the kids lunch and because it’s one less thing I have to think about - thank you, door dash. I have never offered to get her lunch because it feels like it wouldn’t be appropriate for our relationship.

She’s paid very well, gets a generous holiday bonus + very nice/thoughtful gifts for her birthday and Christmas, and we strive to be courteous employers by keeping our house really clean and treating her like a professional.[/quote]

make your lunch!  Geez. [/quote]

If PP would be in the kitchen at the same time as nanny and kids, nanny could very well appreciate that there's so much doordash.  Kids won't notice doordash after a while, and it keeps them from spinning up instead of eating or napping.[/quote]

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