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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are literally complaining about people who complain.

Like you, sometimes people feel frustrated or mad about something they don't have a ton of control over. When other people complain to you, it impacts you but you can't just make them stop without being considered rude, plus even if you didn't care about being rude, they might push back. So you came to DCUM to complain about it because it annoys you, but it's not something you feel you can fix.

Well that's how other people feel about the stuff they complain about. Also someone might be going through something that makes them feel more irritable, of r more powerless, than usual. So they might complain more.[/quote]

This!

On  side note I'm not annoyed by complaining. I get very annoyed by people who complain and don't act - like if you don't vote don't F#*$ing complain about the elected officials.  It's your fault they got in.  If you did vote for them and don't like them now, then yeah, fair to complain they weren't who they said they were going to be.  Same for everything else.  [b]Don't like your house? What steps do you take to move or make it better.  If none, just keep your pie hole shut.[/b][/quote]

See, I think this attitude is super controlling and judgmental. If someone wants to complain about their house, whatever. I'm not standing there with a checklist all "well have you tried painting? why don't you just replace the dishwasher? are you putting money away every month for a bathroom reno? why not!?" Like I don't know the situation and something like a house is not a super easy think to fix. Sometimes the thing a person hates about their house is the new neighbors who moved in next door or the fact that their HOA just doubled fees but decreased services. Those are not quick fixes. If someone wants to complain about that stuff, I am cool with it and I don't need them to prove to me that they have done everything they possibly could to fix the situation before complaining. I mean, maybe if they complain for 5 years and never do anything. But otherwise, whatever, let them complain.[/quote]

This attitude is not "controlling".  Wierd that you think so.  I actually don't say much at all.  I smile, nod, and will say something positive to try to get out of the negative death spiral and free my ears the the complaints.[/quote]

It's just weird to me that if someone had a *valid* complaint about their house, of all things, you'd be like "well why haven't you fixed it yet." Because obviously there are lots of reasons someone might not have been able to fix an annoying issue with their home -- expense, lack of knowledge, the problem is due to location or neighbors, etc.

I understand some of the other examples in the thread more. Like the PP who was frustrated with all the dads at a kid activity who kept complaining about every aspect of the activity but also kept their kids in it. Something where the solution to your complaint is obvious and doesn't cost you much. But it can be hard to fix house issues and moving is kind of a big deal, so if someone had a valid complain about their house, I think it's weird to always think "ugh, just fix it." It's to always that easy.

Obviously if the complaint is not valid none of this applies. Some people really will just look for anything to complain about.[/quote]

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