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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah sure.  What a fake post designed to drum up outrage.

As is usually with 100% of these threads, even if true, we never get to hear the other side of the story and only the highly biased viewpoint from a single camp. I always find it to be the case that the complainer massively overrates their contributions to chores while completely downplaying the ones done by their spouse.  [/quote]

OP- there is truth to this, as everyone’s reality is different and you only get to hear one side of the story. I try to take pause to see if there is something I’m not getting, hence posting on here. I would add that if DH just clean up after himself that would be a big improvement already. [/quote]

My wife will tell her girlfriends "He  doesn't help out with chores!".

Yet this is literally a list of everything I do:

All car maintenance
All home repairs and maintenance
All hard maintenance
Take out the trash
Take care of all finances
Only one that cleans the fridge
Only one that actually *cleans* the bathrooms
Only one that regularly cleans the stop top and microwaves and counters
 Vacuum 50% of the time
Cook 50% of the time
 Do the dishes and with the washer 50% of the time.

My wife does laundry, cleans the surface of bathrooms, and cooks 50% of the time. Yet according to her I never do anything.  This is why I rarely believe narratives like this.  The partner complaining never gives equal credit.

Lol, over the summer I did back breaking work repointing our brick home over multiple days and saved us thousands of dollars.  Of course that never gets acknowledged. [/quote]

Who does the following:

Buy kid clothes and shoes
Respond to school emails
Sign up for camps
Deal with childcare (nanny, daycare, sitters, etc.)
Take children to appointments (dentist, doctor, etc.)
Plan vacations
Buy presents for birthdays/holidays
Deal with parents/in-laws
Handles hosting guests

I feel like my husband and I (who both work full-time) have a great split of things so I'm not an unhappy shrew or anything, I'm just curious about these things that you didn't include since your list was anything but exhaustive. [/quote]

No kids
No school emails
No camps
No daycare
No kids appts
Vacations planned equally
I actually do most of the gift buying
I deal with inlaws and their cognitive decline
Equally deal with hosting guests [/quote]

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