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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There’s not much you can do about it. [/quote]

Yes there is. 9 and 11 are too young to be left unattended at night. OP can ask to add this to the custody agreement. [/quote]

Have you ever re-negotiated a custody arrangement? It can take well over a year, and tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees. And by the time it's resolved, the reason you went to court isn't a real reason anymore.

OP, you can consult an attorney - but take EVERYTHING they say with a grain of salt, because changing a custody agreement against one parents will is very challenging, time consuming, and may not go the way you think.

I'd just ask him to hire a babysitter.[/quote]

Not everything requires full-on lawyering up and going to court. [b]She can send a letter and go to free mediation.[/b] That’s almost 1/4 of their week so I’d consider it worthwhile to pursue. Yes she can start out with a lower key approach like asking him to hire a babysitter or letting them stay with her those nights. [b]His documented refusal will just make things look worse for him[/b]. [/quote]

The first - That is ONLY if he agrees. Mediation requires BOTH parties to AGREE to something. My ex wasted time in mediation - time and money. Lots of time and money when he had no inclination to agree to anything.

The second bolded comment - requires filing a motion, and then getting to court (legal fee $$$$) AND having a sympathetic judge (because again, a mediator is NEUTRAL, they are trained not to take sides and will not use anything "against" the other parent). Sympathetic judges are few and far between - most are far more concerned with the 2yo's being left unsupervised than they are with an 11 and 9 year old putting themselves to bed twice a week.

Trying to change a custody agreement is expensive, time consuming, and doing it in a way that isn't expensive and time consuming requires a parent who gives a crap about what you think in the first place. [/quote]

don’t disagree, but this scenario would be enough for me to get out the big guns, personally. [/quote]

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