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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also don't understand what treating he rto lunch and her not paying her bills have anything to do with each other. I'm wealthy and treat lots of people to lunch. [/quote]

I will send you her contact information so you can treat her to lunch.

We are not wealthy and work incredibly hard for our money, despite my mental health issues. [/quote]

Um, what about my post says that I don't work hard for my wealth?[/quote]

Post your email and I will send you her info.  [/quote]

I don't know why you think you are the only person on earth with deadbeat relatives. I've got a ton of them, but I treat them with kindness, never loan them money and keep my financial distance. Super easy. [/quote]

It gets much trickier when db relatives  entangle shared parents.  SIL has now accrued debt that MIL must pay.  If MIL can’t pay her house will be seized.  Suddenly MIL has no house.  How do they ‘financially distance’ themselves from that?   Obviously dh is going to insist on taking in his mom. [/quote]

Are you OP? You didn't include any of these details in the original post. [/quote]

I’m not OP either but isn’t that the general risk of co-signing? You should NEVER co-sign debt [/quote]

Right. MIL did. And now her credit is dinged. MIL probably has enough to live on.  Whatever is left to SIL probably won’t be enough for her to to live on.  I have to be prepared for a hard no for her ever living in our house or DH ever co-signing for her, but some of the things he does makes me think he will not be able to say no.  That’s what all of this is really about, but I was just venting about the wine and lunch thing because it’s easier than getting into the serious details. [/quote]

Is it time to get a conservator for MIL? Does she meet the criteria of needing this? I mean, the lunch really doesn't mean anything.[/quote]

Also, even if I thought a conservator was necessary, no way would my opinions on the matter be considered seriously.  DH is pretty clueless around his family IMO. [/quote]

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